Our culture is full of conversations about sexuality, identity, personal preference, and what love looks like. These conversations are emotional, important, and deeply personal. Many of us know people who identify within the LGBTQ community, and many followers of Jesus care deeply about showing love, kindness, hospitality, and compassion.

As Christians, our understanding of love is rooted in Scripture. The Bible teaches that God’s love is the fullness of both grace and truth. Grace meets us exactly where we are. Truth invites us to follow God into a better way of life. Real love must include both.

When Scripture speaks about sexuality, it presents a clear design: sex is a gift created by God to be expressed in the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. This is not a matter of personal comfort or cultural trends. It reflects God’s creative order, the union of male and female in the image of God, and the miracle of reproduction within marriage.

Throughout Scripture, God affirms the beauty of a husband and wife becoming one flesh. Jesus restates this design in the Gospels, and the Apostle Paul affirms it again, describing marriage as a picture of Christ and His Church. When we live inside God’s design for sexuality, we participate in His creative story and in His intent for human flourishing.

Where confusion and pain often arise is not in God’s clarity, but in our experience. Many followers of Jesus love someone who identifies within the LGBTQ community. Some have children, siblings, or close friends who are walking a path that feels different from the biblical framework they once knew. In our desire to show love, it can become tempting to begin affirming what God does not affirm. Over time this creates spiritual drift, often without even noticing it.

This does not mean we reject, silence, shame, or condemn anyone. The Church should never treat people as issues that need to be fixed. People are loved by God and deserve dignity, patience, friendship, and understanding. If you identify as LGBTQ, you should never feel automatically excluded from exploring faith or belonging in spiritual community.

Attraction itself is not a sin. Every person experiences desires, temptations, or attractions that must be surrendered to Christ. The Christian life is a call to growth and self-denial, and all of us are invited to sacrifice parts of our lives that do not align with God’s design. Sexuality is one area among many where every follower of Jesus learns to trust God more than personal feelings.

Some followers of Jesus who experience same sex attraction choose a life of celibacy and singleness because their commitment to Christ is greater than their desires. Others are still discerning what this means for their future. Their stories deserve compassion, friendship, community, and support. None of this is easy. All of this requires grace.

Our task as Christians is not to judge people outside the Church or tell every person how to live if they have no desire to follow Jesus. Our calling is to show genuine love, explain what Scripture teaches when asked, listen well, and point people toward Christ with humility. Accountability is appropriate among believers who share a commitment to Scripture, but not a weapon to be used against those who do not.

If you are a follower of Jesus, and you teach or affirm sexuality outside of God’s clear design, Scripture warns that this leads others away from truth and away from the heart of God. Love without truth eventually harms more than it heals. Truth without grace hurts people unnecessarily. God’s way is both.

Over the last decade our culture has embraced a more fluid approach to sexuality and identity. This has not created more peace. It has created confusion, anxiety, instability, and division. When we deconstruct what God clearly designed, we work against the way He created us and against the flourishing He intends.

So What Do We Do?

We continue to love, listen, and build relationships. We refuse to silence compassion. We refuse to silence truth. We choose a posture of patience and humility without abandoning what Scripture teaches about sexuality and marriage.

People are not problems to solve. People are image bearers of God who deserve respect, prayer, hospitality, and friendship. God meets us where we are, but He never leaves us there. He invites every one of us to follow Him, trust His Word, and surrender every part of our lives, including sexuality, to His leadership.

If You Are Navigating This Personally

• God does not hate you
• Your attraction does not disqualify you from faith
• You are welcome to ask questions and explore belief at your own pace
• You are loved, not labeled
• You can belong before you fully understand what following Jesus means for your sexuality

If you desire spiritual guidance or support while navigating sexuality, identity, past wounds, or faith questions, we would be honored to walk with you. You do not have to wrestle alone, and you do not have to fear rejection or shame.

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